Episode #165: New Years Objectives & Plans

 

If you realize us in any respect, you realize we LOVE targets! This week, we’re chatting about our targets and plans for 2023, sharing our first ebook membership picks of the 12 months, and we’ve got some enjoyable podcast information to share!

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Present Notes:

Hearken to Episode #130: New Yr, Similar Me to listen to our 2022 targets.

An replace on our 2022 targets:

Elsie:

  • Get pleasure from dwelling extra (archived)
  • Get up early (did for 3 months)
  • Stay guilt-free (nonetheless engaged on)

Emma:

  • Work on her novel (archived)
  • Work on dry eyes (have gotten higher)
  • Purchase much less junk meals (archived)

-We point out The 12 Week Year by Brian P. Moran 

Our targets for 2023:

Elsie:

  • Work on an enormous artwork challenge (and share on the podcast) by the tip of the 12 months 
  • Learn 52 books (and cease studying if not hooked three chapters in)
  • Leap round to completely different genres of books
  • Journey to 1 new place
  • Prioritizing inventive time each day

Emma:

  • Work extra on her psychological well being
  • Getting again into health
  • Be extra in step with going to remedy
  • Submit her novel to brokers

Podcast modifications in 2023: 

  • Now not taking summers off
  • New varieties of episodes: consolation rewatch episodes + “how you can” deep dive episodes

Q1 ebook membership alternatives (January-March):

-To get bodily copies of older books, go to thriftbooks.com

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  • Show them in your entrance yard

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Episode 165 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. If you realize us in any respect, then you realize that we love targets. So this week we’re chatting about our targets and plans for the brand new 12 months, sharing. Our first ebook Membership picks for 2023 and we’ve got some enjoyable podcast information to share. 

Elsie: So excited. It’s good to be again. 

Emma: It’s good to be again. I miss our podcast pals. Though we don’t really get to speak to them throughout recording or something, however I prefer to envision them round us, hanging out. 

Elsie: Effectively we learn the emails each week and we get dms and issues like that from our listeners, so we positively can really feel it whenever you guys are within the temper to care. Like I all the time really feel like once we come again from a break is all the time like a superb day within the podcast world. I’m joyful. So earlier than we leap into it, do you wanna discuss a bit bit about Christmas, Christmas break, and New Yr’s? Something thrilling? 

Emma: Yeah, I don’t know. Like all people else I’ve had these two weeks the place I used to be like, what day is it? Who is aware of? And truly, even this morning I went to the health club considering it was Monday or Wednesday when my group health class was, and as quickly as I bought there, I used to be prefer it’s Tuesday, what was I considering? What was my plan? So then I simply did one thing else, however I used to be like, all proper, I don’t, I nonetheless don’t know what day it’s, I suppose. However anyway, Christmas was superior. Our son bought a motorcycle and many toys and all types of little issues, however the massive current from us anyway was his bike, and that was actually cute. At first, he was type of like, I don’t find out about this, as a result of it’s like an open-air, like he simply sits in, it doesn’t have straps. Nevertheless it does have a deal with that I push it round or his dad, whoever. At first, he was a bit like, I don’t find out about this, however then he bought into it. So we’ve been pushing him round the home. It’s been type of good this week. So I’ve pushed him outdoors a bit bit, however I really feel like if we go away it for just a few days after which get on it, he’s like apprehensive once more. So it’s most likely gonna be higher within the spring. However anyway, it was cute and it was a enjoyable Christmas. 

Elsie: Cute. Yeah, we had a magical Christmas. I really feel like we’ve actually Marathoned the Christmas magic this 12 months. Due to sure conditions in our life. I didn’t begin adorning till a bit after December 1st, which may be very, very late for me. So I felt like we lived an actual folks Christmas as a result of that’s what regular folks do. That’s the way it was once we have been rising up. And yeah, like blogger Christmas is like, for instance, this 12 months we have been carrying Christmas pajamas and once we shot the movies for that little cheese ball snowman and every little thing, it was August. Goldie was totally dressed up with us too and he or she was with us and we like, I believe that’s how it’s to have a mother, a blogger mother. After which I’ve been making an attempt to have, at the least simulations of regular life, like regular mother life, and which I like, I all the time take into consideration our mother elevating us with no cellular phone in any respect the entire time. So I simply love placing my cellphone away and being a bit extra old school about it. However we had a magical time. We made a lot of cookies, so many cookies. We did the paper chain. We did a ton of mannequin magic. The little dough decoration sort of issues. Every kind of stuff like that. So it was a really fantastic Christmas and I do need to admit I’ve a tiny little bit of a Christmas hangover. Like I’m nonetheless proper a bit bit obsessed about it. I nonetheless can’t cease enthusiastic about it, however I believe that’s simply how I used to be born. Emma stated that in our high episodes of the 12 months final 12 months, there was quite a lot of like vacation content material, so I do know it’s how quite a lot of you have been born as nicely.

Emma: Yeah, I’m type of buzzing Christmas songs all 12 months spherical. That’s simply the kind of individual I’m.

Elsie: I find it irresistible. That’s good. 

Emma: Did you do something for New Yr’s? 

Elsie: No. Okay, right here’s what we did. I did purchase a fantastic floor-length sequin gown on Black Friday, and I used to be so excited to put on it. However then when actual New Yr’s got here round, we have been like, nah, and we simply stayed in our pajamas and our youngsters wished to remain up till midnight. I don’t know what number of extra years that is gonna final. So we went and bought them out of their mattress at 8:00 PM after which did a faux ball drop video. Simply Googling final 12 months’s ball drop video and simply inform them it’s midnight and it really works each time. It’s so cute. They don’t even discover that it’s the fallacious 12 months on the display. They have been like bragging. The following day we have been at Nova’s orthodontist and he or she was bragging about staying up till midnight and I used to be like, I ponder if she believes her, however both method. What did you do for New Yr’s? 

Emma: We hosted a celebration. Yeah, final 12 months Our pals, the Houghtons hosted this glorious get together at their home and so they simply had a tiny child a couple of month in the past, a bit lady. So I type of assumed they might not be internet hosting this 12 months. So I textual content her and I used to be like, should you’re not internet hosting, I might like to host simply this 12 months. As a result of, I like internet hosting but additionally, I’m joyful to let different folks host. It’s simply quite a lot of cleansing and stuff too. So I type of wished to be like, Hey, if that is your factor, I’m not stealing it, I simply would take it over for a 12 months. Trigger you simply had a child. In order that’s what we did and it was actually enjoyable. So lots of my pals got here. Oh, this was attention-grabbing to me, perhaps not, I don’t know, however I set out like a puzzle on the eating room desk. Form of to have completely different areas in the home that individuals may congregate to and chat and eat their snacks and drink and no matter as a result of if everybody’s within the kitchen, I believe it, it may possibly begin to really feel too full and you may’t hear one another.

Elsie: Assume it’s good in numerous zones to take a seat and discuss and to not all be congregated. 

Emma: So I believed setting the puzzle out would type of be like a sign as a result of I actually solely had snacks within the kitchen. I had a cheese board and a bit dessert board and stuff. So I set out this puzzle and my puzzle entice completely labored. I had so many individuals engaged on the puzzle and so they have been nonetheless having enjoyable and chatting and ingesting, having a superb time, and folks would type of dip out and in. I did the puzzle for some time after which I might go discuss with different folks and this and that. After which we additionally had a ball drop sort factor on our film display in our different front room and afterward, everybody was within the temper to bop, so we did quite a lot of dancing. We additionally we’re a kind of {couples} the place Trey has a karaoke machine, so typically events find yourself with karaoke and we had that out, nevertheless it didn’t go that route. This time it simply was extra of a dance get together, in order that was cute. After which I made pizza bagels someday round 1230. After which I went to mattress proper after one. I don’t know the way late folks stayed, however I went upstairs to take my contacts out trigger my eyes get so dry and I used to be similar to, I believe I’m simply gonna go to mattress. That’s what they did. 

Elsie: Hilarious. I find it irresistible. 

Emma: It was enjoyable. I had a lot confetti to scrub up the subsequent day although, value it. However I believe I’ll be discovering confetti for like months from now, within the corners and within the sofa cushions and issues. 

Elsie: So cute. That seems like a really epic New Yr’s.

Emma: Yeah, it was actually enjoyable. And in addition, I don’t thoughts giving it again to my pals subsequent 12 months as a result of like I stated, it’s type of quite a lot of cleansing. I like having folks over and we’ve got a brand new home this 12 months, so it was lots of people bought to see it who hadn’t seen it but. In order that was enjoyable. However yeah, I don’t thoughts not internet hosting. I like to go over to somebody’s home and go away afterward, however anyway. 

Elsie: Yeah, positively enjoyable. Okay, so on this episode, we’re gonna discuss our New Yr’s targets and plans. We’re gonna discuss a bit bit about what we’re doing in a different way this 12 months on the podcast. Oh, and we’ve got our Q1 ebook membership alternatives to share on the finish. Cool. Okay, so earlier than we go into our 2023 targets, I believed it will be good to mirror on our 2022 targets from final 12 months and like how we really feel like we did. Did you’ve gotten an opportunity to test what years have been, do you bear in mind what years have been? 

Emma: Sure. I needed to test too. Oh, proper. I did fairly good. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so what I had down was take pleasure in our dwelling extra. I believe that what I actually meant after I stated that, I don’t bear in mind precisely what I stated on the podcast, however I believe what I meant was to take a renovation break, and we positively did that this 12 months. We completed up our renovation that we had began earlier than final 12 months and over the vacations final 12 months. It mainly crashed our holidays and was a studying expertise for me. And after that was over, it took longer than I believed to wrap up, which is ok. It all the time does. After which we took a pleasant lengthy break and have simply loved residing in our dwelling this 12 months and achieved extra stuff with the youngsters And extra deal with residing the best way we wanna stay as an alternative of all the time being targeted on renovation, which is the way it has been. After which, my second objective was this waking up early objective. And so I did this final 12 months for, I might say I made it, I don’t know precisely, however I might say I made it perhaps three months, like perhaps 1 / 4 or perhaps a bit bit greater than that. I do know I positively didn’t make it to the summer season, so I’ve began doing that once more. I suppose I’ll save that, however I. Really feel prefer it was similar to a factor, like a objective that I placed on the shelf after which took it again off. I’ll defend that. There’s nothing fallacious with that each now and again. Generally it’s type of like a gotta do what you gotta do scenario. After which my third factor that I used to be making an attempt to deal with lesser was like residing extra guilt-free. I spend quite a lot of my life in my very own head, and I don’t know if it’s a part of being a seven on the Enneagram, I don’t know if it’s different issues. The pressures of balancing work and motherhood. Every kind of issues, however this 12 months I did really feel like I spent much less time on-line most likely than some other 12 months in my grownup life, which was cool. I spent much less time evaluating, and I really feel like I spent quite a lot of time determining for myself like, what even is the purpose. As a result of typically you simply need to step again for somebody who’s achieved the identical web persona work for therefore lengthy, it may possibly turn out to be form of the place it seems like a entice. In sure burnout seasons, and this previous 12 months, I used to be in a position to take a break and suppose, what am I making an attempt to do? What’s the significant half and what’s the half that I may let go? I positively really feel like I’m extra on monitor to being an individual who’s not managed by guilt, which feels good.

Emma: That’s superior. 

Elsie: Sure. Inform me yours.

Emma: Final 12 months’s resolutions have been, to work on my novel. Work on my dry eyes, which I’m all the time about, after which purchase much less junk meals. So yeah, should you’re a longtime listener, you then most likely know that I used to be in a position to end the primary draft of my second novel, which is my homicide novel. And I are likely to name it handmade homicide. I don’t know what it’ll really be titled sometime, however that’s simply the way it’s saved on my laptop. Yeah, I completed the primary draft of that and that basically took the entire 12 months. I like barely completed, I’d say, however I did, in order that’s nice. 

Elsie: Good job. Woohoo. I really feel I can communicate for everybody and say, we’re so pleased with you.

Emma: Thanks. And I believe I did work on my dry eyes. I believe it’s a kind of issues that I’ve been type of engaged on for years and years now, most likely like three years. And I can actually inform that really, the issues that I’ve been doing constantly have made an enormous distinction. Like I really really feel like my eyes are fully completely different and higher than they have been like three years in the past. Like I nearly by no means have that factor the place I’m driving and I simply begin getting actually watery eyes and I really feel like I can’t see. I used to get it like fairly usually and it will actually scare me, particularly if I needed to drive at evening. And now I like by no means get that anymore, which is nice. So I really feel prefer it’s a kind of issues that you just do like small issues and so they add up over an extended time frame. Kinda like carrying sunscreen each day after which whenever you’re in your forties you’re like, oh, that really did make a distinction. Nevertheless it like takes so lengthy to note any distinction that this little factor that you just’re doing makes, and I really really feel like my dry eyes are a kind of issues in my life. So yeah, I believe I did fairly good on shopping for much less junk meals. I didn’t actually have a measurement. Yeah. That was considered one of my targets.

Elsie: Oh, that’s humorous. Was it like a selected junk meals or was it normal? 

Emma: I believe it was normal. I believe a part of it’s this time of 12 months, that is a part of why I’m in opposition to New Yr’s resolutions. In some methods, I really feel such as you begin to make targets primarily based on the season you have been simply in, which for me, December is a heavy vacation meals season. Like we simply bought achieved with Thanksgiving. I’m making all types of treats for myself, for pals, for events, internet hosting, and many events. So I really feel like that’s what’s on my thoughts. Whereas like in April, I’m not feeling the identical method. So anyway, so typically I really feel like in January you make targets primarily based on what This autumn was like and it’s like, nicely there’s a complete 12 months anyway. However I’m not in opposition to new’s resolutions. I simply suppose it is best to make targets all 12 months spherical. And that’s kinda like the way you have been saying you took that objective, you place it again on the shelf and also you’re taking it again down. I believe that type of factor’s completely nice as a result of I believe you ought to be always reevaluating and setting new targets and checking in, ensuring one thing’s nonetheless serving you nicely, like on a regular basis. I don’t suppose January is the one time of 12 months to do it. 

Elsie: I agree and I suppose for transparency’s sake. Once I say New Yr’s targets, I’m really simply doing my targets for Q1, cuz I do nonetheless imagine within the 12-week 12 months. And that’s a ebook that we’ve talked about on the podcast earlier than. If you happen to haven’t learn it, we’ll put it within the present notes. It’s wonderful and I believe it helped my productiveness fairly a bit. And I believe that for somebody like me, with my persona, if I believe I’ve the entire 12 months to do one thing, I’ll do much less within the first quarter. In order that’s the rationale why. Every thing that’s a objective of mine and now it’s actually only for the subsequent few months after which no matter occurs after that, I’m not apprehensive about it proper now. 

Emma: Yeah. I’m type of the identical.

Elsie: It doesn’t matter the way you construction it. I really feel our listeners are most likely all nodding alongside and on the identical web page, like we’re not too apprehensive about whether or not or not like targets are good or not. No matter. You know the way lots of people have like scorching takes about that stuff? It’s like simply make it give you the results you want. That’s actually all that issues, so do what works for you. If one thing seems like, oh, this can be a waste of my power, or it’s simply not productive, or it makes me really feel unhealthy, then don’t do it.

Emma: Yeah, positively. 

Elsie: So have you ever set any targets for 2023, Emma? 

Emma: Sure, these are private targets solely as a result of I didn’t put all my work-related targets on the listing cuz frankly it’s type of boring and our listeners will see quite a lot of it. If I accomplish them, you then’ll see it cuz it’ll come out. So anyway, in order that’s not very attention-grabbing to me. So these are my two most important 2023 targets. One is sort of a long-term, gonna be doing all of it 12 months factor as a result of it’s type of just like the dry eyes the place it’s type of small issues that add up over time. You gotta hold doing it. After which considered one of ’em is extra of a Q1 objective. So the long run all 12 months round one is, I’m gonna work a bit extra on my psychological well being this 12 months. Final 12 months was a reasonably powerful 12 months for me. We’ve talked about this on the podcast earlier than. It’s only a powerful 12 months. I believe lots of people are in the identical boat, quite a lot of completely different causes, blah, blah, blah. Nevertheless it was a troublesome psychological well being 12 months. So I’m doing a variety of issues. Principally making an attempt to be extra constant about it. So the three most important issues that I’m engaged on proper now, and I’ll replace these all year long, however all of them type of ladder up for me in the direction of psychological well being, is I’m getting again into my health routine, which I believe that like cardio for me, I believe is simply an endorphin factor. And I don’t know, man, I’m not a scientist, however I believe it helps, so getting again into that. And I love to do group health, so then I can type of simply zone out and do regardless of the teacher says. And that’s good, so doing. After which, I attempt to do this twice per week after which two different instances per week, twice per week, I attempt to go on a stroll outdoors. So for me, that’s about recent air and sunshine this time of 12 months.

Generally it’s not that a lot sunshine as a result of it’s a darkish time of 12 months, however that’s okay. You continue to get the recent air, and for me, it’s simply one thing about being outdoors is good. I like the outside. I’m not significantly like tenting outdoorsy individual, however I do actually prefer to be outdoors. So anyway, after which the opposite factor is extra constantly go to remedy. So I’m simply going to ebook an appointment each single month. Trigger final 12 months I might typically go each month after which I might miss like two or three months. Principally cuz I might get busy and I might really feel like I couldn’t take the day without work of labor. And I’m simply not gonna do this this 12 months. I’m simply gonna say, you realize what, if I’ve to reschedule a gathering or if one thing doesn’t get achieved too unhealthy, everybody will be mad at me. I don’t care. I want to do that. So I’m simply gonna. 

Elsie: Oh yeah, I believe it’s simply as essential as nicely, or perhaps extra essential than some other type of appointment. Yeah, I believe similar to staying on the books is like the important thing, as a result of I’ve additionally had it the place I took a brief break and it was an extended break at one level, after which, it’s a must to Restart once more. And I personally favor it to simply keep on the books on a regular basis and even on the weeks that I really feel like I don’t have a lot to say it’s nonetheless good that it’s there. You recognize what I imply? Yeah. It’s just like the worst factor that occurs is you perhaps discuss your childhood or one thing that you just usually wouldn’t discuss as a lot. That’s the worst factor that may occur. So I believe it’s nice. 

Emma: I believe typically I may really feel like these instances I’m like, oh, nicely I most likely would’ve been higher off spending my time engaged on our enterprise, or blah, blah blah. Nevertheless it’s like, you realize what, I’m simply gonna make an appointment for 3 to 4 weeks later, each time I’m there this 12 months, and simply see how I really feel on the finish of the 12 months. And it’s not gonna be a waste of time. That’s 12 instances. It’s not that massive of a deal. So I’m simply gonna do this. In order that’s form of my all 12 months lengthy good job small steps factor. And I stated right here in like three months, six months, I’ll reevaluate. I’ll add some extra issues for my psychological well being. I’ll change one thing. No matter I’m needing, I’ll proceed to judge that. However that is what I’m doing proper now. After which my Q1 objective is to submit my novel to brokers. So I’m gonna attempt to polish it a bit bit right into a second draft. It nonetheless most likely gained’t be like remaining, remaining, at the least to me. However I additionally really feel like I don’t really need it to really feel remaining. Closing. Cuz if I ever do get to attach with an important agent and or editor in some unspecified time in the future, which hopefully I do, they’ll most likely have strategies and issues that I ought to change anyway. So I type of wanna polish it up in a spot the place I’m prepared to indicate it, however not so polished that I really feel cagey about altering it, perhaps even altering it in main methods as a result of I wanna keep type of open to it. So, I’m gonna attempt to polish it up this quarter. In order that’s three months. Someday within the subsequent three months, I’m gonna be sending it off to some brokers who I’ve talked to previously, literary brokers, and see what they suppose and go from there. So right here it goes. 

Elsie: Find it irresistible. These are nice targets. So I’ve your targets, three or 4 targets. Yeah, so my first objective is only a private objective. I’ve been engaged on this massive artwork, we’ll name it an artwork challenge. It’s a challenge. I’ve been engaged on a private challenge. It’s now my second 12 months, and I’ve been all the time type of like, Not able to share it but since I began, however it’s my objective to have the ability to share it on the podcast by the tip of this 12 months, which signifies that I’ll have to be just about achieved to be ok with that.

So I believe that I do want, I profit from a timeline. I simply did a kind of persona strengths exams. Did you get that? I emailed it to you. 

Emma: I did. I took it.

Elsie: Oh, you probably did it. Oh, okay. Effectively, let’s discuss that in a future episode cuz that’ll be enjoyable. That was considered one of our requests. In any case, so I did the strengths take a look at and considered one of my high 5 strengths that I found is that I thrive on deadlines, which I had no concept about, nevertheless it does make sense that it’s like if there’s no deadline, then it’s two completely different sorts of initiatives. And so I simply need to suppose. I needed to recategorize this challenge right into a deadline sort of scenario. So yeah, that’s my first objective. Share it by the tip of the 12 months. If I don’t share it, you guys can ship me hate mail and you may unsubscribe, you possibly can go away a foul evaluate that’s one star. You are able to do something. Please don’t do this. I’m making an attempt to be accountable, I’m making an attempt to place myself on the market and actually, that is one thing I’ve talked about it endlessly in my shut pal circle, however I really feel I want to simply end it at this level, and get it going. So yeah, that’s my first objective after which on Good Reads, I do know there are completely different websites you need to use to trace your studying. They’re all most likely wonderful. I simply use Good Reads as a result of it’s frequent. So I’m doing the 52 books Objective once more. I did it final 12 months. I positively suppose I can learn greater than 52 books simply, however I made a decision simply to maintain with that objective as a result of isn’t {that a} ebook each week? Yeah, that’s a ebook each week. It’s nonetheless like loads of books and I simply didn’t really feel like I wanted an even bigger objective. I really suppose so final 12 months I bought to 79 and that’s what I ended with. I used to be so pleased with myself to be completely trustworthy. The one factor that I’ll change for this 12 months, Is that I really feel like I pressured myself to complete books that I wasn’t having fun with, fairly usually, most likely two out of each 10. So 20% of the time I really feel prefer it, it’s tense whenever you really feel you’ve already invested time getting like a fourth of the best way by or no matter. That’s normally fourth of the best way or half of the best way is the place I really feel prefer it’s like I do know for positive, that it’s not gonna get higher for me. Which is fairly far in, and in order that’s why I all the time pressure myself to complete it. After which it’s tougher additionally with in style books since you’ve heard different folks discuss how wonderful it was for them, and also you’re like, I wanna see what they noticed in it that I’m not seeing but. And typically it does come round, however I haven’t heard, or at the least for me, there haven’t been that many instances when I didn’t like a ebook within the first half, and I did prefer it within the second half. So I believe for this 12 months I’ve discovered my lesson and I’m gonna simply don’t have any guilt about quitting a bit bit extra.

Emma: Yeah. I do really feel like that’s one thing that individuals will ask me from time to time, I really feel such as you’ve requested me earlier than too. Anybody who’s a reader, I believe we discuss with one another. I by no means know what to say when individuals are like, do you end books that you just’re not having fun with or not? As a result of I’m type of Within the center on it seems like the identical as you. As a result of I really feel like when folks ask, what I actually wanna say is are you a brand new reader, or do you actually know what you want? As a result of should you’re type of new and also you solely have learn one style earlier than, then I might say perhaps give it a go. As a result of there are books that midway by they do completely change and may shock you. However I additionally suppose should you’ve been studying for a very long time or should you’re somebody loopy like Elsie who learn a billion books final 12 months, you then most likely know what you want and also you most likely have already uncovered your self to quite a lot of completely different genres. 

Elsie: I really nonetheless take into account myself a brand new reader as a result of the primary fiction ebook I ever learn was like a 12 months and a half in the past since like highschool. So I do nonetheless take into account myself a brand new reader, and I do suppose that I nonetheless need to attempt issues I wouldn’t have tried. I by no means would’ve tried it, like attractive fairy ebook if it wasn’t for such as you and the podcast listeners.

Emma: Sherry, I believe it was Sherry. 

Elsie: By no means. Yeah, and Sherry, and actually type of many of the web. I by no means would’ve been inquisitive about that subject. It wasn’t like considered one of my primary favourite books, nevertheless it was loads higher than I believed it will be. I’m nonetheless glad I learn it. Anyway, I do nonetheless wanna attempt bizarre issues, however typically it doesn’t repay. And I believe similar to accepting that.

Emma: I additionally suppose it could possibly be a superb factor. There have been instances I picked up a ebook at that time and I used to be like, I’m not into this. After which a 12 months later it’s nonetheless on my shelf and I’m like, why didn’t I like that? I can’t bear in mind. After which I begin studying it once more. I’m like, that is superior. So I believe it can be the stage in life you’re in. Generally you’re not within the temper for one thing darkish or one thing mental. You recognize what I imply? Generally it’s a superb factor, I believe too.

Elsie: Yeah, 100%. Okay, after which the opposite factor about it, oh, I wanna attempt to leap round to completely different genres a bit bit higher. I did fairly a bit final 12 months, however I might say I stayed fairly constantly on the, I dunno what you name ’em, just like the romantic comedy sort of books. The romantic books. Then the fantasy books and in style books. That was like Carnival All I learn. After which a few different issues. And I learn an excellent previous ebook and I liked it, which I didn’t suppose I may or would. So yeah, I simply wanna attempt extra issues that I’m unsure about. I believe that may be a good objective. After which the opposite factor I simply wished to notice and say, that is like I get this query loads and I hate it, is individuals are like, do you suppose audiobooks depend as studying? Which, to begin with, my youngsters are principally blind. Audiobooks depend as studying. It’s prefer it’s offensive and ableist to ever even counsel that they don’t for that purpose. It will depend on your way of life. For me, quite a lot of the studying I do is after I’m driving or sitting within the automobile line or what’s the opposite time. Oh, engaged on establishing or tearing down or quite a lot of our weblog work is issues like that and we make these little rooms and posts and all of that’s like an hour or two of prep and all of these are instances after I’m quote unquote studying, however I wouldn’t have the ability to if I have been like committing myself to solely learn from a paper ebook. So I simply suppose it’s so snobby and I’m completely in opposition to anybody who says that it doesn’t depend. I imply, it doesn’t matter to me as a result of I depend it. , however I simply, what’s the purpose? 

Emma: I believe it’s, yeah, okay. If you happen to’re of the opinion, cuz I might put myself on this camp the place I benefit from the expertise of studying a ebook and actually I might go as far as to say I benefit from the expertise of studying paper books. I prefer to flip the pages. I used to have a Kindle, however I didn’t benefit from the expertise of that as a lot. That’s similar to for me, that’s a part of it. However I do suppose it’s fairly snobby and form of narrow-minded to suppose that different methods of experiencing books and literature will not be, I don’t know. I believe anytime you’re asking a query and also you’re type of placing someone else down, perhaps take a second and take into consideration what you’re about to say, and suppose why? Why do I want to do this? Am I making an attempt to make myself really feel higher? Like I’m extra superior? Simply take a second, all of us do this. We wanna suppose we’re superior.

Elsie: I do like paper books and particularly like on an airplane day or there are specific varieties of days once we went on our journey to Palm Springs final 12 months and we mainly learn the entire time in pool chairs. That sort of factor is one of the best. Like final evening I used to be studying earlier than mattress as a result of my husband wished to look at an annoying TV present and people are all nice. However yeah, I believe that it’s simply the entire, does it depend? It’s like depend for Why? Ew. 

Emma: A Lot of individuals are completely different. Studying will be completely different for various folks. So like get on off your excessive horse of us. 

Elsie: Yeah. One other time I wanna discuss concerning the children, their expertise with their Yodas and stuff. Trigger like their audiobook, it’s like they’re going thus far above their age ranges although, and I believe it’s actually good. Even when it’s not technically the identical factor. It’s nonetheless one thing. Anyway, okay, so I set a household objective. So my objective for the 12 months for my household is to journey to 1 new place. And that is one thing that we simply arrange as a objective for the primary time, however we’re going to, we’re gonna do it yearly. We simply type of have began to understand the variety of years that we’ve got with our youngsters and for our way of life. One journey a 12 months to go to a brand new place is probably the most that we wanna decide to. And we nonetheless wanna go to previous locations. We nonetheless wanna go to our similar pals in numerous states and we wanna go to Disney time and again. And the annoying issues that we love to do, we prefer to go to Palm Springs each couple of years. I believe that this objective, We’ll be actually vital as a result of we’ll simply have the ability to make extra recollections. Going someplace one time and having one set of pictures there’s a lot completely different than going to Disney as soon as each two years to your children’ total childhood. So yeah, I’m enthusiastic about that. I’ll let you know the way it goes after it’s achieved. After which aside from that, I simply have down, I’ve this little quote, it’s probably not a quote, nevertheless it’s written in quite a lot of my journals and my, like my imaginative and prescient board and stuff. It says inventive work is rarely wasted. And it’s type of like one of many mottos of my life that I stay by. So this 12 months I simply wanna prioritize inventive time each day. So I’ve been engaged on my ceramic journey. I’ve been portray once more. I’ve been writing, and there are different issues that I simply wanna attempt that I haven’t tried but. So yeah, I actually imagine in my core that any sort of inventive work that you just ever do, Whether or not it’s for an hour or a month or a 12 months is rarely wasted as a result of it should all the time circle again to your life and aid you on a future challenge, and it’s typically it’s whenever you least count on it. It’s one thing that we’ve discovered from being DIY bloggers, like the talents that we predict are random, find yourself being really very helpful. Anyway, that’s all my targets. I’m so enthusiastic about this 12 months. I really feel like a superb power for 2023. 

Emma: Yeah, I do too. I’m very hopeful about this subsequent 12 months. I believe it’s gonna be a superb one. All proper. So we additionally wished to inform you all about some podcast modifications for the brand new 12 months, for 2023. So, primary, which we predict everyone seems to be gonna be enthusiastic about, we hope we won’t be taking summer season off. We tried that final 12 months and it was nice to have the day without work, but additionally, I don’t know, it glided by actually quick and it simply felt like.

Elsie: It was type of unhappy. We bought quite a lot of unhappy emails. 

Emma: Yeah. We bought quite a lot of unhappy mail and simply to be clear, simply because if we felt like that was one of the best factor for us, we’d nonetheless do it. However after making an attempt it for a 12 months, we simply really feel like, you realize what? We’re good. We’re not gonna take the summer season off. In order that’s what we’re gonna do that 12 months. 

Elsie: We’re including a few new varieties of episodes, which we’re gonna discuss in a second that can assist us file extra episodes in every recording sitting. And I’ve heard every now and then suggestions from our listeners that you just don’t prefer to know that we batch file. And to that, I might say we actually wouldn’t podcast anymore if we couldn’t batch file. So it’s not an possibility for us to do like a diary of our week and discuss simply what occurred this week. And hopefully, it should make extra sense when we’ve got our summer season going up and we’ve got a brand new episode each week and it’ll really feel value it. I believe that there are simply various kinds of podcasts and podcasts that do like information or present occasions or issues like that ought to perhaps file each week or of the second. However that’s actually not what we’re making an attempt to do in any respect. Thanks and I additionally wanna say we had an awesome quantity of help for taking the summer season off. However the purpose we determined to not do it once more is that we really feel like one of the simplest ways for us to develop our podcast and one of the simplest ways for it to form of serve all of our targets is for it to be actually constant. So we’re giving extra consistency and we positively recognize your help. It’s been, and I really feel like our podcast listeners are probably the most supportive. 

Emma: Oh yeah, positively probably the most supportive and probably the most engaged, I might say, a part of our viewers. We simply hear from you guys loads, so it’s actually enjoyable. So we’re excited for that and we’ll be right here this summer season. It’s simply right here’s the brand new episode sorts we’re gonna attempt partly as a result of we’re gonna file extra episodes this 12 months than we did final 12 months. 

Elsie: Okay. Let me announce. So the primary new sort of episode, and we’re gonna have the primary one up in two weeks. So it’ll be on the finish of this month, referred to as the Consolation Rewatch collection. So we’re going to do a rewatch collection. We are going to attempt to inform you prematurely what they’re going to be. However no guarantees, like with the ebook membership. However what we’re gonna do is we’re gonna do entire episodes about consolation films, as a result of a few of our hottest subjects that we come again to over and over are films and particularly like speaking about just like the interiors and flicks and the texture and like the way it can encourage our on a regular basis lives and issues like that. We’ve been asking to your consolation request on Instagram and please electronic mail us anytime. [email protected] And particularly after you hear the primary one and also you type of know the format, ship us your request cuz that may be a massive a part of how we’re gonna fill the summer season. And in addition we’re gonna take a bit bit much less breaks like we’re not gonna take off like Labor Day and Memorial Day. Simply in a position to have a bit bit extra consistency by having extra of those Consolation Rewatch episodes. After which the opposite sort that we need to do is named the Deep Dive episodes. So the place that is coming from is that there are quite a lot of subjects that we’ve got talked about time and again and over on the podcast, perhaps 30 instances, however there’s not an episode for it. So it turns into actually arduous to seek out for our listeners. So we’re gonna do a complete episode on cash, An entire episode on adoption. An entire episode. What are a number of the ones we had? Oh, the curated closet. We’re gonna do a complete episode. 

Emma: On making a five-year plan? 

Elsie: Sure. Making a five-year plan is definitely our first one which we’ve got arising. We expect that simply having, extra titles shall be cleaner. It really jogs my memory quite a lot of early running a blog in early running a blog I might simply be like, listed below are 10 issues that I did this week and so they’re all fully random. Three of ’em are essential and 7 of ’em are silly. That’s how we’ve been podcasting. However then it’s such as you’re probably not constructing an archive that individuals can use and discover worth in later aside from binging. And so I believe that’ll be good for us. And we type of like geeking out on topics. You guys most likely know. We’ve our issues that we like to actually get into. So yeah, that’ll be enjoyable and we will certainly do listener request for that as nicely. 

Emma: We hear loads from you that you just prefer to re-listened to episodes, and so we really feel like these deep dive or how you can sort episodes is likely to be one thing the place if the episode comes out and also you’re like, oh, you realize what, like five-year plan, I’m not within the temper, or I’m not in an area in my life proper now the place I wanna do this. For no matter purpose, however six months later you may really feel like, oh, I’m within the temper or I’m in a spot in my life the place I’m prepared for that content material. I wanna re-listen to it. Wait a second. What episode was it? I believe they have been additionally speaking about their grandma in that episode. Let me see. So now it’ll be extra clear so that you can discover, like that one episode, that factor that you just is likely to be eager to re-listen to. That’s a part of the thought too, behind it. Most likely simply one other method of claiming what else you stated, which is like an archive of helpful content material.

Elsie: Yeah, 110%. We would like you to have the ability to discover the episodes. Oh, Emma, do you wanna share the Q1 ebook membership alternatives? 

Emma: Sure, completely. Sure. So these are for January by March. There are 4 of ’em, two fiction and two nonfiction, and as normal, we don’t completely know which of them we’re gonna do first or final. So simply no matter sounds attention-grabbing to you, should you’re gonna be a part of us. Go on in, as a result of we gained’t do them in one of many subsequent episodes by any means, however most likely like three or 4 episodes, we’ll begin with one. So, the 2 fiction books are this Time Tomorrow by Emma Straub, and I’ve learn two of her different novels earlier than and liked them. I like this writer. I additionally observe her on Instagram. I’m type of a fan lady and this one I haven’t learn it but, however I’ve heard has a bit little bit of time journey. So I believe it’s gonna be enjoyable and completely different and I’m actually excited for it. The opposite one I don’t actually know very a lot about it. It’s one which Elsie placed on the listing, so I’m actually excited. It’s referred to as Cleopatra and Frankenstein by Cocoa Millers. 

Elsie: Okay, right here’s what I find out about it. I purchased it as a result of it has an irresistibly lovely cowl. While you see the duvet, you’ll perceive the irresistibly lovely espresso desk for the novel cowl. I’ve additionally seen it on lots of people’s high books listing lately as a result of it’s like the brand new 12 months simply occurred and folks have been doing their high books. I do know it’s by a British writer and I do know that it’s a love story about two folks I believe named Cleo and Frank, who I believe they’ve an age hole and I believe it’s type of a interval, like an early century factor. That’s most likely not one of the best synopsis, however I’m excited to learn it and it’s been on my listing for therefore lengthy, that’s why I put it on there. I used to be like, I actually wanna learn this ebook that’s been on my present shelf all of final 12 months. 

Emma: I like a love story, so I’m intrigued. After which our two non-fiction picks for this quarter are Assume Once more by Adam Grant. If you happen to’ve by no means heard of Adam Grant, it is best to begin following him on Instagram or Twitter, no matter you prefer to be on. He’s so cool and I’m very enthusiastic about this ebook. 

Elsie: I like Adam Grant. I’m so, I don’t know why I haven’t learn this ebook but. It doesn’t make sense cuz that is precisely the kind of ebook I’m into. He’s the individual should you observe him on Instagram, he posts the tweets, prefer it’s similar to his tweets. However then they’re all the time a bit little bit of a barely completely different pastel shade because the background. And other people repost them an insane quantity as a result of I really feel like his entire factor is like thoughtfulness. And form of not shopping for into cliche or… what’s the phrase? Like tribal habits. And anyway, he’s been interviewed on Sharon’s podcast and he looks like a really attention-grabbing individual I’m excited to learn this ebook.

Emma: Sure, me too. After which the final nonfiction you’d decide for this quarter is an oldie however a goodie. So should you’ve by no means learn it or if it’s been some time, it is best to be a part of us. It’s Massive Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. 

Elsie: We picked this one particularly as a result of we wished to place a reread on. It was between two books and I gained’t say what the opposite one was cuz we’re most likely gonna do it afterward within the coming quarter. I like this ebook. I keep in mind that I learn it at, I believe the very starting of the quarantine, which is a really unusual time to learn a ebook. I simply downloaded it once more and noticed that it’s solely a five-hour audiobook, which should you learn audiobooks may be very brief. It’s one thing you possibly can positively learn in a few days, if not perhaps in the future relying on what you’re doing. So, very brief, and I liked it the primary time I bear in mind we talked about it in a really, very early podcast episode. 

Emma: So I’m excited to reread it. I learn it a very long time in the past, perhaps like, I don’t bear in mind when it got here out, however I wanna say it was like 2018. So it’s been some time. I’m very excited.

Elsie: There’s nobody who doesn’t like this ebook. Oh. Additionally similar to a bit tip in order for you a bodily copy. I type of wished one simply trigger like why isn’t this on my shelf? Go to thrift books as a result of older books like this are the kind of books that you may get on there for very, very low-cost. So anytime there’s like a ebook that was actually, actually in style like 5 to 10 years in the past, that’s the factor to purchase on thrift books.

Emma: That’s a superb tip. 

Elsie: The ebook membership goes your individual tempo, learn no matter you need. After we come to an episode the place we’re speaking about it, we’ll let you realize in the event that they’re spoilers. And quite a lot of instances there’s not. A number of instances, we attempt to do it the place it’ll make, you continue to wanna learn the ebook much more. It’s simply type of like probably the most low-maintenance ebook membership I believe that you may have. Nevertheless it makes me joyful as a result of I do really feel like we’re having like a bunch exercise to do collectively. 

Emma: Yeah. Truthfully, I’m in a real-life ebook membership and I really feel prefer it’s the same factor the place half of us learn the ebook, and half don’t. However you possibly can nonetheless benefit from the group. It’s a superb time. Don’t fear about it.

Elsie: Okay. Earlier than we go, we’ve got probably the most enjoyable listener query ever. 

Emma: I believe this was an electronic mail, and that is from listener Michelle, and he or she says, Do you’ve gotten any concepts for displaying a classic hanging crystal assortment? I inherited my grandmother’s assortment of pink and white crystals. She liked them dearly, however by no means displayed them. She was a conservative southern girl and was afraid that company would see her crystals and suppose she was into the occult. It appears foolish now. I do know. It’s so cute. Michelle says it appears foolish now, however I respect her emotions on the time. I’d prefer to show the crystals in a method that reclaims their pleasure. I believe grandma would love that. Any concepts? 

Elsie: Initially, I like this. I despatched a clarifying electronic mail to Michelle and simply requested can I see an image of them. I simply wished to ensure I knew. So what she despatched me again, actually appears like crystals that might come off of a chandelier or the little ones that you’d purchase, that you may cling considered one of them like in a window. Although with tons and many sides. So yeah, they appeared like a spread like that, and they’re pink and clear. 

Emma: Fantastic. Fantastic. Yeah, it seems like an important assortment. And truthfully, I’ll begin as a result of these have been two issues. I didn’t get the clarifying image. So good. Elsie, good factor you emailed her cuz I used to be like hanging crystals. I really feel like perhaps these are the kind of issues which are gonna go on a chandelier. So I used to be like, I ponder if she may purchase a chandelier. That has hanging crystals, that’s like perhaps in disrepair or type of perhaps it’s cheaper cuz it’s probably not very fascinating. And she or he may take off the items which are on it and placed on these. So then it’s type of a DIY slash reclaiming the body of it if that makes any sense. Kinda like recovering a lampshade. You’re probably not making the entire lamp, however you’re giving it new life right here. So I used to be considering one thing like that is likely to be cool if she wished to have it as a chandelier in her dwelling, or I additionally thought hanging them in home windows all through her home can be type of particular. In my thoughts, I’m like, which means like a bit piece of your grandma’s in each room, like each window that you just stroll previous and it glitters by the crystals.

Elsie: I like that.

Emma: It’s not really within the crystal, however the reminiscence of her and stuff, you realize what I imply? 

Elsie: The sure type of home windows which have the little, I don’t know what you name it, the little piece of {hardware} within the center between the 2 pans like older home windows have that loads. That may be good. I had written it down, so I positively have seen on eBay crystal chandeliers which are stripped from all their crystals. That’s positively a factor that you may purchase for a small worth and make one thing. I believe it sounds sophisticated, however very, it does enjoyable. I might counsel perhaps a candle chandelier, simply so that you don’t have to love mess with {the electrical} one thing. Then you possibly can cling it wherever and you may simply get these little distant candles. I believe candle chandeliers are so fairly anyway, however yeah, I believe one in each window might be the transfer. I believe it’s so candy and particular and you may simply have one hanging there and you then’ll get the little glow lights in your partitions and it’ll make you consider your grandma, which nothing could possibly be sweeter than that. Then the final concept I had was to exit, go to the flea market, purchase your self a latte and decide the prettiest classic bowl you will discover and simply put them in your espresso desk with all of your fairly books after which this bowl along with your grandma’s crystals. And I additionally suppose that might be a pleasant approach to have them, as a result of for me, my children love taking part in with crystals. I’ve an enormous crystal assortment from earlier than I had children and after they discovered it, oh my God, it’s like higher than toys. In order that’s enjoyable. 

Emma: Crystals are fairly and anytime somebody has a bowl of crystals out on a espresso desk displayed, I have a tendency to the touch them too. Until it’s clear you’re not imagined to. However I really feel like that’s type of fairly apparent, like go forward and contact these. Transfer. I had that on my listing too. I had two others that I don’t really feel, I really feel like those we’ve listed are the methods to go, however I had two others that have been simply completely different concepts in case she had loads within the assortment and he or she needs to place them in home windows after which has extra. So it’s type of like, I would like just a few concepts. So the opposite two have been a shadow field and so they wouldn’t essentially be hanging, however they could possibly be displayed in there. So you may have form of an artwork show of a few of your favorites or a number of the extra completely different shapes. After which the final one and this one, I don’t know, as a result of it seems like these crystals are actually, actually particular to her. So I don’t know, however I simply thought I’d throw it on the market. I used to go on walks in my previous neighborhood and there was this one home that had all these oddly formed massive crystals. They’re not even actually, all of ’em have been crystals. A few of them have been similar to coloured glass items within the entrance backyard mattress. It was like a crystal backyard.

Elsie: I do know precisely which home you’re speaking about. The one which has form of just like the little artwork gallery. Like they make it like a residing, what do you name it, like a low-key out of doors artwork gallery and there’s similar to completely different stuff in there on a regular basis. It’s very tactile, it’s like very touch-friendly, kid-friendly. I believe it’s like very, Inspiring and funky prefer it makes the entire neighborhood cooler. 

Emma: It actually does, and I believe this actually will depend on your neighborhood as a result of on this explicit neighborhood, there’s quite a lot of fairy gardens, there’s quite a lot of little free libraries. So I believe it is vitally clear to folks when. You possibly can contact issues however not take them. And when you possibly can contact issues and so they can transfer round and that’s okay. So I believe you’d wanna make it clear by some means with the best way you displayed it, that you may contact these, however don’t take them. I believe that that may be achieved fairly simply. You would additionally, relying on how your own home is about or your condominium, you may wanna even do it in a planner field or one thing that simply makes it clear like this can be a show so that you can have a look at and luxuriate in, however please don’t contact them or take them. Form of as much as you. It relies upon, on the vibe you’re eager to go for and stuff. However yeah, similar to you say l see, it’s like a particular factor. And I additionally love the thought of, when you’ve gotten a group or one thing that’s particular to you and let others see it and also you additionally wanna clearly deal with your issues and ensure they don’t get broken, particularly in the event that they’re household heirlooms. However I don’t know, it makes it actually particular to me after I get to, indirectly share my assortment with others. I believe it’s actually enjoyable.

Elsie: Okay. Effectively, you’re gonna need to tell us which one you find yourself doing and ship us a follow-up image cuz now we’re all invested on this crystal assortment.

Emma: We’re Michelle.

Elsie: However yeah, I believe it’s very cool. Thanks a lot for listening. We shall be again subsequent week with our reactions to 2023 pattern predictions.